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Your Teen & Their Emotions
Does this describe your teen?! Does your teen blame you, the parent or anyone/anything else, instead of being responsible for their own emotions? Your child's teen years can be a difficult time. Teens may feel overwhelmed by the emotional and physical changes they are going through. At the same time, teens may be facing a number of pressures - from friends to fit in and from parents and other adults to do well in school as well participating in sports or part-time jobs.
ABC's of Normal Emotions
A Activating Event (be aware of why one is having a reaction)
In Dr. Maultsby's book Rational Behavioral Therapy (see Resources at the end of this newsletter), he states that both Rational Behavior Therapy and Rational Self-Counseling denote thinking or any other behavior that obeys three or more of the five rules for ideally healthy mental and emotional self-management:
Five Rules for Rational Thinking
1. Rational Thinking is based on obvious fact.
Have your teen ask himself:
Five Rational Questions
1. Is my thinking based on obvious fact?
Three honest "yes" answers reveal rational and therefore ideally healthy thinking. Three honest "no" answers reveal irrational thinking or behavior.
Remember, what is rational for one person at a particular time, may not be rational for that person at another time AND what may be rational for one person, may not be for others. This is where communication between and parents and children can break down.
How Parents Can Help
Tips for Teens on Dealing with Their Emotions
Learn to express your feelings in an appropriate way.
Think before you act.
Strive for balance in your life.
Take care of your physical health.
Rational Behavioral Therapy,
The Adolescent Self: Strategies for Self-Management, Self-Soothing, and Self-Esteem in Adolescence,
Yes, Your Teen is Crazy: Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind,
Focus Adolescent Services
Written by Mary McClain Georgevich
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